The Mission of Love.

Call me a hopeless romantic if you must, but I love a good chick flick. Maybe’s it just the desire as a woman to be swept off my feet by the unrealistic hunk of a guy in your typical, “10 Things I Hate About You”, “A walk to Remember” or the forever tear jerker, “Titanic”, but ever since I can remember I have always loved sitting at home, all snuggled up in my favorite blanket sitting on the couch, box of Kleenex at the ready, fresh popcorn, popped to perfection, and a good pint of Ben and Jerry’s chocolate ice cream in the freezer, ready at any moment. Granted, all these things make the movies that much more enjoyable, but that can’t be it, that can’t be the reason we women and even men too, love these movies so much. So…what is it?? As you sit at home at your computer, pondering that question, let’s keep the mental juices flowing and ask a few more questions, shall we?
So what makes those chick flicks so good, even before Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams kiss in the very convenient rain storm, after reuniting back together?  Why do our hearts melt when we see such, un-normal and unrealistic love? The answer is just that, because in between our loud nose blowing, and spoon full of rocky road, it is in fact unrealistic love, but something within our souls click at the moment when a kiss in the rain happens, a dramatic slow motion run on the beach to the forbidden lovers occurs, with intense facial expression and wicked camera angles, or the ever popular; running through an airport only to find that the nameless actor didn’t get on the plane, and was waiting there the whole time, and they all lived happily ever after. What makes our hearts register a desire for love in those moments?
Perhaps it could just be the fact that I live in Missouri, so it doesn’t really rain that often, nor do we have beaches, and are airport is that big for anyone to really run through, so maybe I just don’t see it that often, but it seems to me this type of Hollywood inspired mentality of love just isn’t the everyday norm.

But even that being, why do we still pay money to see it, read it, and be involved in it? The answer is because we as human beings were made for love. We were made to be loved, to show love, and to truly experience the nature of love. The reason we gush out crying and even laugh, and become happier when we watch these movies is because we are searching for love. But so often we as humans are searching so long and so hard for that love, we stop at the nearest exit of our souls and a take a rest stop at the earthly desires motel. Like any motel, it’s not a home, it’s not the end of our journey, but it is comfortable. So we decide to stay awhile, so we trade the ultimate for the immediate. We know that we were made for an intimate relationship with a person, so they could love us, care for us, and really know and understand us and vice-versa. So why do we settle?

Why do we settle for the random guy at the party, the first girl or guy to pay attention to you, the random hook up? Why do we settle for the stereotypical society manufactured impression of what love REALLY is? Because we know we weren’t made for this world, we don’t feel at home on earth, there is an inescapable desire for a supernatural love, a love created in divinity. But to often we msitake that for the much simpler and easier earthly production of love.

But so often we as humans forget our worth, and therefore disregard all other considerations of our potential and call to be loved by someone else. No matter who you are, where you live, what you’ve done, what you do, or what you could ever possibly do, there are three people who will always love you, one of which will always be most apparent. First two people being your parents. Now I know for any one like myself, a child of a divorced family, got to many half or step siblings to name, and don’t have one or either parent that involved in my life, you got to be saying, “yeah whatever”. But think about it this way, if there was anyone on this earth your parents would physically or emotionally die for, at any moment; do you honestly think it would be the neighbor across the street, or you? The odds are definitely in your favor. Just because they aren’t good at showing love all the time, or even sometimes, doesn’t mean they don’t love you with every fragment and being of their soul and person. It simply means they themselves don’t know their own self-worth, so they don’t know how to love others. The third person who will always love you is God. If you are currently sitting reading this thinking, “Well if you only knew what God has let happen in my life, you wouldn’t say that!” “God doesn’t love me, or He wouldn’t have let these things happen to me.” And so on and so forth.

On the contrary, God doesn’t choose the qualified, He qualifies the chosen.  If you had your fair share of trials and turmoil’s in your life, then God has some big plans for you, he doesn’t give you anything you can’t handle, in theory those same trials and turmoil’s are actual signs from God, the almighty, creator of heaven and earth, saying, “I trust you. I love you. I am with you.”
Sorry, but that’s pretty cool to me, yeah it’s not easy, but we don’t need easy, we weren’t made for easy, we need and were made for possible. “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13 There you go, direct proof, anything is possible, actually ALL things are possible; just in case that little bit of doubt was in your mind.  

The mission of love is not to make, bend, twist, and or contort love to make it easy. The mission of love is to make it, organic, sacrificial, and durable. It may not be Hollywood movie flawless, but it’s what we are called to do. It may seem unrealistic, and it sure isn’t normal, but that’s why we desire for people to be real with us, to sacrifice for us, to stand alongside us, to love us. Love, whether reckless, natural, spiritual, demanding, or organic is all possible, but only if we leave the rest stop of normalcy and conformity, and take the nearest highway straight to holiness. Love isn’t only found in God, but that is the only place it can be fostered. My challenge to whoever is reading this, is to walk passionately and love recklessly, always.

God Bless!